A Pep Talk To My Girls - And a Lesson For My Men

So. I've been thinking as I have currently started a job that makes me run into this situation myself lately... a lot.

I think its damn cute (in the most condescending way possible) that men out there actually think they can call me pretty, or sexy, or compliment me a few times and think I should be all about giving them what they want.  Like a few compliments justifies me sending a picture, or kissing their dirty no-idea-where-it's been mouth, or even tolerate them making grabby hands at me. Like I have so little value of myself that I will fawn over the first guy that compliments me - like they're the first one to do it.

So this happens so often, I'm wondering if it's actually a thing. Surely it must be so if so many men think that giving a fuzzy compliment is going to justify me going out back and maybe opening my legs for them. Or anyone. With the media, music and society selling sex with posters of 'flawless' women and rappers making songs that talk about how tapping asses is such a big deal, only because they're so bad ass or whatever.

All I have to say is: SHUT UP and LISTEN..

So.

To the ladies:
 I don't give a flying turtle's tail if you're short, tall, thick, thin, scarred, inked up, humble, modest, confident, flawless or flawed. Blue eyes, brown eyes, green eyes, hazel eyes, blonde, brunette, ginger or dyed. Brown, white, black, or 'yellow.' You. Are. A. GODDESS. There is absolutely no reason you should sell yourself short. In the Cherokee heritage all women were raised and treated as vessels of power, respect and women were cherished. We are the epitome of life, of power. We were treated cautiously, respectfully. We had to be separate from others on our moon-cycle because our innate natural power was amplified.  When pregnant we couldn't touch the harvest, or be upstream to the river fish traps because our power could spoil the harvest. Because we were considered powerful.  In my tribe, women were the decision makers, and the men were our enforcers.

Why am I telling you all of this? Because Cherokee or not - you deserve to be respected and honored in that way. Maybe not to the extreme of the old superstitions of our tribe, but you at least deserve to have a man work for what he wants from you. And I mean work hard.

Don't let society teach you and drill in your head that a man simply has to smile and maybe buy you something in order to achieve what he wants from you.

A man who gives up and has a fit after you don't give into him just because he says you're cute is not interested in anything you want. A man who wants you will want to see more than just your pretty face or your nicely framed ass in your tight jeans.  You are worth the effort. You are worth the time. We are creation - and we deserve to be treated like that.

To the men:
Stop being douchebags. Period. Respect the women around you - and stop thinking that  you're just gonna get your way because you grew a pair of balls after one or two drinks and told her she's the sexiest thing you've seen in a long time. Take her out. Get to know her. And stop trying to tally the amount of lays you get. You're the reason why women feel like they have no value nowadays  - and there's absolutely no reason it should be that way.

The Best Decisions

Sometimes the best decisions are the hardest ones to make. The choices that will make you happiest will break your heart the most.

Most of the decisions in life we must make that are vital to our structure will be the most painful actions and decisions you will ever have to make.

Many people always put off the decisions, or draw it out because they are afraid of getting hurt, or hurting someone else.

So take heed my friends: The more painful a decision is, the more important it is to make. While these choices and options never involve a fully pain free route (Or we would take it in a heartbeat, right?) and often it takes a lot of pondering, and usually a final nudge towards one decision or the other, it's best not to draw it out.

This is a general rule of thumb in life, and remember when you are asking why you have to make an unfair decision, or why are you put in a position where you have to decide one painful thing or another; remember that such is life.  Important life changes are not meant to be easy or painless - for how would we grow as people?